What they CAN do

The world thinks so much of what people experiencing dementia can't do. But in my world, we focus on what they CAN do! They often just need a companion who understands how to leverage the skills they keep to continue to meet their emotional needs. Our companions are living wonderful lives because of the skills we've learned through the DAWN…

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Loss isn’t the whole story

Loss isn't the whole story. Sometimes we can get stuck focusing on the loss in Dementia (the loss of cognitive function), but there are so many strengths we should notice too! The DAWN Method taught me how to switch that perspective to lean into the strengths of our friends experiencing Dementia. https://www.instagram.com/p/DRSaHFlCa8S/

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A Missing Piece in Dementia

I knew that when I entered my friend’s door, I would need to sit, face her so that when she looked my way, our eyes would meet, and patiently and attentively listen.  I knew that my response would have to feel to her as if I agreed with her negative comments about her son.  She needed validation, empathy, and for…

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Still Fully Human

His was a true Horatio Alger story.  From the wilds of Wyoming as a child and youth, to the opportunities available in Northern Colorado, he embraced hard work and built something impressive.  And yet, he was humble and kind.  He became a leader and a man of service, donating time and resources to community causes he believed in.   When we…

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Her Special Love

She grew up in Philadelphia, the daughter of an Italian father and Irish mother.  A capable, independent, and talented young woman. His United States Navy ship came into port in Philadelphia, and a friend introduced them.  It wasn’t long before he asked her to write letters to him after his ship left port.  They were later married and enjoyed decades…

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A Surprise

I have had the flu twice in the six weeks since my dad drew his last breath.  I rarely get sick.  In both of these cases, I was really sick. I suspect my body is decompressing from the time I spent pouring myself into managing my dad’s care and caring for him.   It seems that much of society would look…

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Father’s Day 2025

This morning, I will go for a gentle three-mile run. And I will think of my dad. I began my running career with my dad when I was thirteen years old. It’s been over four decades since then, and I still run. Not as far and not as fast, but I am filled with gratitude that I am still able…

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