Why what we say matters.

When spending time with one of my companions experiencing dementia, it matters how I communicate with them. They are losing contact with the recent past as their memory skills are changing. So when preparing my greeting, I thought about how I could stay in the "moment of now." For example, she will not remember the weather over the past few…

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Enjoy Your Mom, Joe

My friend Joe called me a few weeks ago.  He was on the way to his mom’s home in another state; on his way to sort through the long list of things he needed to do on her behalf, as her Power of Attorney and devoted son. He was calling to say thank you; thank you for encouraging him months…

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The Moment of Now

The DAWN method taught me that with dementia, 3 primary skills are being lost, and 3 primary skills are being kept. Knowing this helps us understand the way a person experiencing dementia behaves.  Two examples of this are:  Losing memory skills - which means they can reminisce well about the past, but lose connection with what just happened.  Diminishing rational…

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The Gift of Time

The best gift we can give our companions with dementia is time, especially in conversations. When speaking with a companion experiencing dementia, don’t rush to fill the open space. Instead, be patient, watch them, and give them time to respond. Watch for a flicker of understanding that lets you know they are thinking and avoid the tendency to fill the…

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Slowing Down

Why do I talk at a slower pace? The pace at which we talk to our companions with dementia matters. It is important to make good eye contact, speak slowly and clearly, speak loudly enough that they can hear you, and articulate well! Don’t forget the impact a gentle smile can have. 😀 They have not lost intellect, they just…

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Living or Dying in Dementia

If you have read my blog posts for a while, you know that I wonder, and I ponder sometimes.  I wonder while I spend time with those living with dementia.  I ponder about society and how we are doing with caring for our elders.  I wonder about our society’s thoughts about life, living, end of life, and end of living.…

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