My mood becomes their mood. Because of the diminishing ability to analyze, interpret, and decide what to do about information in the environment, my companions with dementia become “victim” to whatever mood I bring to their doorstep; whatever mood I possess during our time together. If I show up and bring with me my concern for what is going on…
Our friend Fred passed away this week. He passed peacefully in his own room, in the home of his daughter and her husband. We had the privilege of knowing him for just a few short months; of enjoying time with him talking about Nebraska, and Willa Cather, and the beef industry, and rare and collectible coins. He gave us advice…
The more time I spend with my companions living with dementia, the more I get to watch them act out their own dementia script. And when we give them this opportunity, we give them a gift. THIS is what good dementia care looks like. The key is that they have to be living in an environment that understands their dementia;…
We have seen technology make a powerful difference in the lives of caregivers. Technology used well can bring relief for caregivers, and a sense of increased safety for their loved ones. Technology also can bring greater independence, safety, and well-being to the lives of those who need it. The issue is that it needs to be the right technology, used…
I often say, “there is hope in dementia.” And, “there can be beauty in dementia.” Because when we get it right with dementia, I’ve witnessed both. In fact, some of the most profound experiences of my life have come when spending time with one of my companions with dementia. But dementia is still dementia. It comes with unpredictability, struggle, and…
Our good friend passed away March 15th. A life well lived, and he finished well. We are honored to have shared moments of his life during his last couple of years; companions in outdoor recreation, enjoying volunteer service with Colorado Youth Outdoors, simply being well in his own home when community outings became too uncomfortable. We learned a great deal…
I suppose there have been times when I have been running from something. For sure, there have been times when I have been running through something. But as I look back, I catch a glimmer of the hope I could not see but somehow felt. I started running when I was thirteen years old. My Dad was running to stay…
I have had the privilege of sharing zoom calls with three families in the last two weeks. Families who are moving beyond the stage of shock following their loved one’s diagnosis of dementia. Families for whom this is the first conversation with a healthcare professional and dementia specialist after receiving the diagnosis. Families who share, through their tears and their…
I have a friend who is eighty-eight years old. She has advanced dementia, and she has become my good friend. Recently, her doctor changed the dosage for her medication. Because she lacks the cognitive skills that would allow her to remember the details of the medication change (she is unable to remember or bring to mind which pill was changed…
"People are not limited so much by their illness as by their attitude to it. The illness may present physical challenges, but the emotional challenge is often far more important. Our human spirit may stumble as the path ahead appears too daunting, yet with support and encouragement, our resilience can be re-enabled and used to find creative solutions. We are…
