When Knives Are a Good Idea

People living with dementia are not children.  They have decades of experience and loads of muscle memory attached with the safe and effective use of tools such as knives.   Until the end stages of dementia where the movement part of the brain forgets how to work and how to help the body move, folks with dementia can likely still safely…

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Calling All Dogs!

“Greenies” on the countertop of an older woman who does not have a dog.  Yep.  It’s what we do. You see, our team has the privilege of walking very closely alongside our companions who are benefitting from our special and unique care.  Folks who are older than most of us, and most living with dementia.  We regularly coordinate and oversee…

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What Freedom Feels Like

Yesterday, my companion with dementia and I were driving to one of our favorite places: the local thrift store.  As we drove, she spontaneously erupted into singing the song, “The more we get together, together, together, the more we get together, the happier we will be.”  So, of course, I joined in.  We have sung this song together many times…

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Our Calm and Peaceable Selves

My mood becomes their mood.  Because of the diminishing ability to analyze, interpret, and decide what to do about information in the environment, my companions with dementia become “victim” to whatever mood I bring to their doorstep; whatever mood I possess during our time together. If I show up and bring with me my concern for what is going on…

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Our Friend Fred

Our friend Fred passed away this week.  He passed peacefully in his own room, in the home of his daughter and her husband.   We had the privilege of knowing him for just a few short months; of enjoying time with him talking about Nebraska, and Willa Cather, and the beef industry, and rare and collectible coins.  He gave us advice…

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Authors of Their Own Scripts

The more time I spend with my companions living with dementia, the more I get to watch them act out their own dementia script.  And when we give them this opportunity, we give them a gift. THIS is what good dementia care looks like.   The key is that they have to be living in an environment that understands their dementia;…

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When OK is Truly OK

I often say, “there is hope in dementia.”  And, “there can be beauty in dementia.” Because when we get it right with dementia, I’ve witnessed both.  In fact, some of the most profound experiences of my life have come when spending time with one of my companions with dementia. But dementia is still dementia.  It comes with unpredictability, struggle, and…

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A Tribute to Our Friend

Our good friend passed away March 15th.  A life well lived, and he finished well. We are honored to have shared moments of his life during his last couple of years; companions in outdoor recreation, enjoying volunteer service with Colorado Youth Outdoors,  simply being well in his own home when community outings became too uncomfortable.   We learned a great deal…

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