We are not full-time caregivers. We acknowledge that at the end of our designated time with our companions with dementia, we go to our homes. We are for sure mindful of the demands, fatigue, grief, uncertainty, and mix of emotions that come with being a caregiver. We do our best to support caregivers equally as much as we support the folks living with dementia.
It is our hope that as we bring DAWN dementia education and coaching, and DAWN Dementia Specialist care, caregivers receive help, hope, and relief.
I had an epiphany recently when I was enjoying a lengthy stretch of time with one of our companions with advanced dementia. At the end of the day, I was tired. Emotionally and physically weary.
And I was reminded of the life of a family caregiver and their continual and perpetual investment in the life of their loved one with dementia.
And then I pondered, “Phew! I am tired, but my day was one of more comfort than conflict; one of peace instead of misery.” And it reminded me how grateful I am for knowing how to use the DAWN Method to preserve my companion’s mood and to respond correctly when she says or does things that make no rational sense. I reflected on how when she experienced a bit of distress because the beloved people in her photographs would not speak back to her, I was able to be with her in an empathic manner and join her in her concerns. This meant that she had a companion in those moments; a companion who did not contradict or discount her very real perception of reality.
It brought to mind the reasons why we teach the DAWN Method for families, why we recommend that families read the DAWN method books, or learn the DAWN Method through online family training. Because the road for the caregiver of a loved one with dementia is arduous, complex, and usually long. But at least by learning the right way to do it, the road can include comfort more than conflict, peace more than misery.
If you are a caregiver and your relationship with your loved one with dementia is marked by conflict, discomfort, and distress, there is another way. It is still dementia, but the journey can include hope, beauty, and meaning.
Happy to help,
Jill ©Jill Couch
